My bricks came just in time for 2008

I am happy to say that I am seeing the good in a bad situation. I had to realize that some people in my life were only there because I was convenient for them! And even though they knew my intentions and my feelings, instead of keeping it real, they felt like they should do me a favor and keep me dragging along! But last night, I got my brick wall.
After God was telling me no, I still wanted things my way! I was convinced that the same things that happen to me in the past would not happen this time because these people care about me and had my best interest at heart! Lesson #8645859, NO ONE has your best interest at heart but God! And thats where I made my mistake! Thinking I was different! Even telling my self, well maybe they are right...WRONG! In 2008, friends are friends, they are no more than that and no less. I am going to treat friends only the way they treat me! 2008 is going to be such a great year and aint nothing going to hold me back! God already told me what great things he has for me and if I listen and follow him, they will all fall into place!

My pastor said that Mary looked at her situation at first with humanistic eyes thinking that the birth of Jesus would be a curse to her since she wasn't married to Joseph yet. But when you look at the big picture, she was part of something so great!! God chose her and I know he chose me...and I know God wont give me trash so I should stop settling for it!

This blog post is my testimony, I made mistakes this year, but in about 24 hours, I am thankful to say I will be given another chance even though I don't deserve it! I don't need to become this ideal "great woman" because I already am one! Not perfect, by all means no, but I know I am pretty, wise, fun, and a child of the MOST HIGH God, what more could anyone else ask for!??!

Peace

Let's get naked...

Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.

Well let's not get naked literally...but I want people to stop trying to be like everyone else. Why is it so hard for us to be ourselves? Say what YOU feel, pursue what YOU want? I notice that in so many people. I think some people tell themselves that's who they want to be and become that instead of doing what come naturally to them. God made us all individually different. No one man is like another, and no one man will ever be like another...so why do we want to be each other? Why we can't learn to love and be ourselves? Has society programmed us to believe that we should be a certain way and that's what we conform to? Or are we too stupid to see that we look stupid trying to absorb everyone else's personalities but our own?

I make it a personal goal to do what makes Cheri A'mour happy...not what I THINK would make everyone else around me happy! I want to be me......because I am an original.

Remember:
Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.

What are you thankful for this Thanksgiving???

Yay! Thanksgiving is coming up and I just can't wait. Been going through a lot lately and I am really looking forward to cooking, laughing, and eating with my FAMILY! I've never been so tired of school! This will be a great thanksgiving.

This year, I am thankful to have the opportunity to spend this holiday with my family, especially my mother. I just treasure every moment I spend with my mother because I don't know how long God will allow her to be part of my life and I just want to be thankful for everyday that I see her face and hear her voice. What are you thankfukl for this thanksgiving?

Currently jammin: The Real Thing by Jill Scott

Thats right! She is back at it again! I love everything about her...especially her big hair! But if you haven't heard her latest CD, you are really missing out! Even though she is divorced, I think that she is doing big things right now! Check it out and tell me about your favorite tracks!

New name: LIBERATION

I decided to change the name of my blog because I just wanted to write about any and everything without the restrictions of my title! So for those who read (even though i wish you guys would comment and not text me about your thoughts) I hope this is a place well you can relate to everyday issues! Holla atcha girl! lol

Liberation- the state of complete personal freedom

The key to happiness

With the year coming to an end and with my new found discovery of pre hypertension, I have come to the conclusion that I am going to change my outlook on life. For now on, all negative things will be deleted, this includes people. All bad habits will come to a stop, this includes my eating habits. All good things will flourish, this includes reading my Bible more. I have to do this for me. I have to love myself more than I do, because no one in this world will have that type of love for me. If I want respect, I have to demand it. If I want to be happy, I have to claim happiness into my life now and forever. No one wants to be around a person that complains and is upset all the time (Trust me, you don't).

For me, the key to happiness is to taking control of my own life. And not allowing others to determine my happiness. It is also valuing my body and my soul, because at the end of the day all I have is me!

Actions speak louder than words!

And it's true! You can tell a girl that you are really into her (more than just the fact that she is pretty but also because she is smart and has a good head on her shoulders) and you want to start a relationship with her. But what should she believe when you give her every reason to think that you just want to have sex with her? Lets just say you meet a nice young man that you have a lot in common with. You talk to him all the time but you never really get a chance to hang out with him. Then one day you go over his house and have a good time. Just as you open your car door to leave, he hugs you and starts kissing you on your neck. WTF??? Um excuse me, we just started hanging out, and you mean to tell me that you thought it would be OK for you to kiss me on my neck??

I think the issue at hand goes deeper than the actual picture. Guys are so use to girls that don't mind that and they are confused when the reaction is NOT "oh baby I like that".

What upsets me the most about the situation is that we talk about our GROWING relationships with God all the time and we also talked about watching a guys actions and not listening to his words. He tells me how he is different (HA!) from other guys and how much he really likes me as a person, not just because I am pretty. So what made him think that it would be OK to kiss me on my neck (which in my opinion is a form of seduction) the FIRST time we hang out?????

I just don't understand guys! And I probably never will. I guess I will remain single until I can find a MAN who is ACTIVELY pursuing a SERIOUS relationship with God just as I am. No I don't expect him to be a perfect saint, but I DO expect him to control his emotions or feelings in that type of situation. I'm a child of God and for those who don't know that means I'm royalty...so start treating me that way!

Discrimination and Racism...years and years later...

.....STILL Exist. I attend a university that credits itself of having the best criminal justice program in the state of Texas. But yet, when a student goes to speak with the dean about being discriminated against, even though he (the dean himself) knows its wrong, tells the student that it is OK and to just let it go??????????? What happen to respect? What happen to everything that Dr. ML King fought for? Without him I wouldn't be at this school, so if he stood up for what he believed, why can't I? That student is me and I refuse to back down because that would be something Dr. King would never do. I refuse to be the center of my professors jokes...or the one with the bad grades because I'm black.

Racism is still prevalent and alive today. Don't think for one moment you will never be a victim of racism or discrimination. Nowadays, it does not matter if you are black, white, or Asian, everyone discriminates against everyone...and everyone is looking out for themselves. Maybe I should start being selfish like the rest of the world huh? (I'm not, that's a rhetorical question)

Why do you think we are still fighting battles that were fought many many years before we were born????

Trying to forgive

Right now I am really seeking some encouraging words...I am being harrassed by my professor and there is pretty much nothing i can do about it. I trust God but right now I just need to hear something encouraging!

I really want to drive my car through his office but that won't solve anything...what do you suggest i do?

Suggested Reading of the week: COME ON PEOPLE

...Is the title of Bill Cosby and Alvin Poussaint's new book that talks about strengthening American through families and communities. For any of you who watch Oprah yesterday, Bill, yes we are on first name bases, was fired up about families, especially parents taking over their household and not allowing children to run the home. He said one thing that stuck out to me;

"Parents, don't knock on your children's door asking them "may I come in?". That is YOUR house and YOU pay the bills! They just live there!!"

I am going to try and read this book. I really want to learn more especially since I would like to start my own family one day.
If any of you read it or have read it let me know what you think

If you wanted to see a few clips from yesterday's show (and it was a really good show) go to oprah.com

Time waits for no one!

This is really a subject that concerns my frustration with males (most, not all) I am personally getting tired of meeting lame, boring, WACK, lying, dull, trifling guys! Where are all the good ones hiding??? No, I don't want a "cakin' buddy" and NO I don't want to be in a "complicated" relationship! If you spend time with a girl but don't call her your girlfriend, then guess what?? She is still your girlfriend...why?? because the only difference is the title! Ladies, stop settling for that! If a guy wants to be with you, he will... Don't settle for him telling you he wants to just be friends but he wants you to come spend the night! WTF?? Tell him NO, put your shoes on, get in your car, and take your butt home...because he does not want you!

Have you ever been excited about a guy and you tell your friends about him? So your friends are all excited and saying they can't wait to meet him. So you and this new guy talk often but you really don't get to see each other because every time you get a chance to see him, he cancels the date because "something came up"?? Well now your friends are telling you girl leave him alone...what do you do? Yep, you guessed it, leave him alone...he is just not that interested in you. If he was that interested, trust and believe that he will MAKE time for you!

My point is this...don't wait on a guy to get his sh*t together. Don't wait on a guy who tells you he is going to do better. Don't wait on a guy who tells you he is busy but he tells you the night before that he went to the movies with another girl...yeah his "friend"... Don't wait on a guy to be happy. Don't wait on a guy won't wait on you! Time waits for no one and excuse my french but time DAMN SURE AIN'T BOUT TO START WAITING ON HIM!!

Let me know about a personal experience you had with waiting on a guy that you really liked or loved and what made you realize that you were worth more than that...

All it took was a trip to the Dean's office?????

So, as some of you know, I have been having some serious issues with my PHL 471 Death and Dying class. Our professor thinks that a class average of 66 after a curve is considered "good". Every morning I leave my apartment at 9:30 am to get to a 10 am class because if she calls your name during roll and you are not there, even if you are a 5 seconds late, you are considered absent, not late, ABSENT! Well anyway, on the past two test, there has been a total of 2 A's and mostly C's and D's. I had 2 study groups, and have even compared notes with fellow classmates to ensure that I am on the same level with the rest of the students in my class! When I got my first test back, it was a 69 and although I was a little disappointed in myself, I knew that I'd do better on the next test. Well the second test came around and well, yes, you guessed it, SAME GRADE!! WTF? What am I doing wrong? was the first thought that came to my mind as the tears started to fall down my face. And i sat there the entire class period thinking what did I do wrong? Then the young lady in front of me turned around and said, " Do you want to go to the deans office with me?" Of course I was down but I had to think about why I really wanted to go, was I going out of spite? Or was it because it really is her, not me? Well when she congratulated the class for going up 15 overall from the first exam (class average for the 1st exam was a 52, after the curve) I knew then that it wasn't me, it was her!

So we went to the Dean's office with open minds and willing to come up with a sensible solution to our problem with the professor. The first thing we told her was that it was a concern, not a complaint and proceeded with our reason for being in her office. She suggested we talk to her individually and dont do so in front of the class because she may feel like she is being attacked. She also told us that she would suggest that she do a midterm evaluation so we can anonymously discuss how we feel about her teaching and the way she has the course outlined. We shook hands and left feeling like we got nothing accomplished.

Well I took the Dean's advice and email my professor about speaking with her one on one about my grades. This is where it gets good...so we are all in class early today with our notes out ready to write because she ALWAYS starts on time! She comes in right at 10, which is not usual for her and she begins to write the following on the board:

A= 84-100
B= 67-83
C= 52-66
D= 32-51
F= < 32%

OMG! So now she tells us that the grading scale has changed! All it took was 30 minutes in the Dean's office???? She "understands that the class averages A's that start around 84"! The entire class just goes crazy, you hear a couple of "Thank you God" and "Is this a sick joke?" she lets us enjoy the moment and allow to really take in what she was doing!

I've always talked about going to the Dean about certain professors but never did I ever imagine that it would actually work! I'm just excited and thankful right now! Oh and she didn't take attendance today...which is something she'd NEVER do! I guess there is a FIRST time for everything! =)

I'll keep you updated about this class...

No Illegals...No Burritos (You better think twice America) LOL

I saw the title I used on someone's facebook page...but check this video out! Tell me what you think!

Welcome

Greetings, and welcome to my new blog, Controversy! Here we can express our views on various subjects that bother us and the people around us! Let me know what topics you'd like to see me talk about and I will be sure to take it into consideration. This blog is for people with an open mind and any ignorance will not be tolerated!