Digging dirt out the trash can

I know I am not alone on this one.

There is a reason we throw things away....for example, old papers, unnecessary crap, men, are great things to throw away when you (maybe not you...me definitely) are done with them...yet for some reason I find myself digging in the trash.....why o why???

I was speaking to Tynesha the other day about men and how it bothers me every time I meet a new guy...its almost like a job interview.... "Hi, I'm Cheri, born and raised in Houston, TX...I moved here ___ months ago....yes it was totally random....sure, you can call me some time..." I get so tired of going over my "credentials" with guys. The ones that make it far enough mess it up (well i do my fair share of damage) and yep, you guessed it, back to square one!

So I find myself thinking about how well "this guy" knows me and wonder "how is he doing"? Forgetting the reason we stopped talking in the first place. And the minute he makes me mad reminds me why I dumped him in the trash.... its like a big cycle of nothingness....

all in the name of love, lust, companionship....?

I think not...

Then I remember, the reason why I am single now. I pull up my Bible on my crackberry and begin to find some real answers......

We will see how this goes!

M.I.A in VA

So its been a while since I've made a post but trust me, you aren't really missing much these days! Life feels like a drag some days. Its funny how you have all these MAJOR plans and dreams and a year from now...everything is pretty much...well, the same!

In a years time, I've graduated from college and moved to VA. I got a job working at a bank where everyone refers to my branch manager as mickey mouse and he tells all the cute guys "Cheri is like a daughter to me so you better watch it.."! Besides working with a him and the daily bs...it really isn't all that bad...but the pay is...but I digress!

So, I started working on my website today....I'm going to give myself until thanksgiving to have it complete (at least the design and layout) so if you are looking to do a website...holla at cha girl (I already have two clients so you will be on a waiting list lol)

That's it for now....i guess.... I'll keep you guys posted...

oh and follow me on twitter: twitter.com/thecheriamour

Peeeeaaaaccceee (in my pamela james voice)

Happy 1st Birthday Spring 2008: Refined Illustrations of Poise

Happy Birthday Line Sisters!!!!!!!!!!!

It has been one HELL OF A YEAR! I mean that sincerely! But you know what, I wouldn't trade my 16 line sisters for the world! They are all unique and special in their own way and I am so blessed to have such a wonderful group of girls in my life!

LS': Thank you for being my everything over the past year....my friends, sisters, support, boyfriends (lol) confidence, strength, love, and comfort. When life felt like it was against me, I don't care what time of day or night it was...you guys have been there. Thank you and I love y'all for real!

Happy Birthday my loves!

Love,
#4 Blessed Sentiment
SPR 08-Refined Illustrations of Poise
Theta Epsilon
We all we got!

My life in VA pt.2

If I could describe my life in one word right now it would be AMAZING! I know what it feels like to be happy, but this is a different type of happiness... the kind of happiness that makes you feel bad when you speak to other people are they aren't as happy as you. But it hasn't been easy, happiness always comes at a cost. I miss my family and friends. I miss Houston, and I miss having my own place (even though I loooove living here, I need my own privacy sometimes lol). I miss my line sisters! I just miss being home! But I'm remembering my goals and dreams and why I came out here in the first place.

I am more than likely going to be working for PNC Bank. Its salary so I won't complain but I would prefer a job that I really want to do. This job is going require a lot of training and a lot of work on my end which ultimately get me a lot of experience but idk....I'm just complaining i guess.

Anyway, so i need to give you nosy people a good laugh real quick....its of course about relationships. So I've been here for a little over a month, and in the process I met this really sweet guy name DeeJay! Well DeeJay was everything you could ever ask for in a guy, smart, handsome, God fearing, and not to mention he had a GREAT paying job. So me and DJ were going out on dates, working out together and whatnot just having a great time. Well last Wednesday, DeeJay and I went to out to eat and went to a Wizards game. On the ride home we talked about dating and how much we liked each other....we even talked about trips to NYC, L.A and Georgia coming up! Well about 1:30 am that night, I get a text from HIS WIFE!!! WTF????????????????
Now, let me begin to tell you this...this is the second time this has happened to me! Why me? Why?

The moral of this story....CHECK YOUR MAN'S CELL PHONE. If she never looked in his phone, she would of never called me and I would of never known he was married. Ladies, you know how you spend the night over your "boos" house and you know that feeling you get that someone else has been there? Even worst, he is sleep and his phone is RIGHT THERE! CHECK IT GIRL! LOL Now I say all this to say that if you are talking to a great guy and you have doubt check it, don't be all in his phone all the time just to be nosy. Especially if y'all aren't even considered a couple, you can't get mad.

I'll post more about that....but isn't that just crazy!?!!! It happens to me all the time, its nothing lol.

So I'll keep you guys updated on my life in the upcoming days/weeks.

My life in VA pt.1

So, as you all know, I moved to Virginia on Tuesday and I think this was the best decision I've made yet!! I am staying with my family in this big beautiful house on three acres! All the neighbors wave as they drive by lol! Anyway, today I applied for jobs ALL day, and tried to stay out the way of the cleaning lady. They have two cute little dogs named nacho and ninja!!! Oh and my cousin woke up early with me this morning and made me the best breakfast ever! I love it here! They are so nice, and willing to help me! Tomorrow is a big day. We are going on a business trip to DC. I know we are going several places but one of them is the Pentagon. My uncle knows people everywhere so he is going to introduce me to a couple of people tomorrow so we shall seeeee!! =) Big things BIG THINGS coming up in my life! I am super excited....this year, Im not going to talk about it, I'm going to talk about it and DO IT! Well its 11pm, long day tomorrow and i need sleep!
I'll keep you all updated, sorry if I havent talk to many of you much lately, I really have been busy and trying to adjust and learn my way around!! But i love and miss each of you (you know who you are) ok...stay tuned...more big announcements coming up this year!!

Chi City Mayne!

Ok, I just love this guy! He is hilarious and I told some of you about him but here is your op to be the judge for yourself. Check out his other vids...of course I've seen most of them...ENJOY!

Currently Reading: The Assassination of the Black Male Image

This book written by Earl Ofari Hutchinson in the 90's but is still somewhat relevant today. Earl clearly has all these emotions balled up and is releasing them (more like lashing out) in this novel. I can honestly say that even though what he is saying comes off a bit harsh (or real if you would) its SOO true!
Some of you may be wondering why am I reading this book but, I think it helps put several things into perspective!

Today, unlike 1995, Black men aren't seen as a threat to society as much but racism is still prevalent in our communities! Maybe now Barack Obama is president, people will stop trying to make it seem like black men are the only race of men committing all the crimes in our neighborhoods!

I can go on and on about this (I know, I know) but I really want to say that black women (some of course not all) have adopted the same ideas about back men that the media has. Part of it is the media's fault but lets stand behind our men ladies... and men, black men, give us a reason to stand behind you! Please!

(I'm going to be blogging about several books in the upcoming months... I bought like a MILLION books and been trying to catch up on any and EVERY book I've ever said I wanted to read)

Coming soon...Rich Dad, Poor Dad (read this book and you will understand my next big and upcoming project). Eat, Drink and Be Gorgeous (looooves it!) And Your Best Life Now!

As most of you already know, I'm moving...

...To Virginia/ DC (well I'll be living in Virginia and working in DC)!!!! Woohoo! President Barack Obama (i just love the way that sounds) said we needed a change right? lol....whether you like it or not, next week I will be moving to VIRGINIA! I don't intend on coming back! I am sooo excited! Lately, A LOT of people have been asking me why I decided to move. My answer to them has been why not? I have been blessed and presented me with the opportunity of a LIFETIME! Besides, I'm a recent college grad, no commitments, (at least none good enough to make me stay) and no children!

Sooo...yeah pretty much I'm excited and I will keep you guys posted in the weeks ahead...in the meantime, I have some serious business to take care of. But since I don't know how to take my butt to bed at a decent hour...I'll post some more stuff tonight (or next week depending on if I finish)

Being selfish is not always a bad thing...????

Could this be true....Potentially... Something new I'm trying. Normal people call it selfish. From what I understand, selfish is being concerned about yourself and you needs and wants before ANYone else...HA! As funny as that is to me, I think that is going to be my new approach for a while.
Lately, I haven't really felt like myself. To be honest, I have been worrying about so much stuff, that it keeps me up at night (obviously lol). So I decided that it was time for me to take a short hiatus... nothing personal against anyone but since I'm so use to being "there" for everyone else I am going to see how it works to be "here" for myself.

Why the hiatus? Well, i think I just need a break from anything that I feel does not help me get out of the situation I am in right now (goes faaarr beyond the fact that I don't have a JOB, although that's a huge chunk). I'm not running away from my problems, I'm solving them which includes my hiatus from those who try so hard to be my friend that they forget to actually be one!!!! Most importantly, I am kind of sick of "trying" to explain how hard I am "trying"...why waste that time explaining when I could actually spending that time "trying"? (think about that one)

There is no doubt that I love everyone in my life but sometime you have to do what is best for YOU! Sooo, in the meantime....I'm back to trying...this selfishness actually is not all that bad...

LOL ok ok I must admit, I know that is contradictory to what I believe (Jesus would never act like that!) But i think that shows just how human I am....my needs and wants right now are most important to me now because they haven't been in a while and I think I need to take a step back and figure out what I need!
...more to come...

Just a side note...

I can honestly say that I am proud to be an American! I want to congratulate MY President Barack Obama and his family! Change has come...things can only get better from here....

The way you do ANYTHING is the way you do EVERYTHING!

So, I have not been on here in almost a year but a lot has changes since I've last made a post. I pledged Alpha Kappa Alpha last Spring (the real reason I stopped because I did not have time) then I graduated from SHSU (thank you Jesus, a sista is educated) this past fall 2008 semester. So life has changed so much in a year for me. Oddly enough, even with a degree and being in the most prestigious African American Sorority, some things just simply haven't changed. Over the past year so many things have changed but my relationship with certain people have not...why? All the knowledge I've acquired over the past years and I have yet to apply it to my life! One day, I want to wake up, go to church, listen to a message, and actually feel like I'm dong things the right way, instead of feeling like i need to make major changes or adjustments. Unitl then, I decided that if I am going to be great in some things, I should be great in all things.

Pastor J, from Higher Dimension Church spoke this past Sunday about discipline. In order for me to achieve my goals these next few months, I need some discipline! There are sooo many things I want to do ( I know, I know but I can't reveal all my secrets lol). He also spoke about "the way you do anything is the way you do everything". So what I got out of that is if I half ass (oops sorry lol) a few things in my life, I would feel like I can do that with everything. Or if I cheat my way out of school, I'll cheat my way out of every situation that arises. FYI: NOT the life I'm trying to lead!

So, I think Im back to blogging for a while, I have soo much to talk about and sometimes its hard to find someone to JUST LISTEN!